We’ve all been there…and it is always a lot easier said than done but does “moving on” always have to be the miserable process that society has made it out to be? The unnatural feeling to just let go of something you care so much about is what makes moving forward with your life so difficult after a break up. When it comes to letting go you need to focus on the only thing you can control…yourself.

I believe there is an extremely liberating feeling that’s goes along with moving on. I think some people believe that letting go and moving on means forgetting your past to begin your future. I do not agree that is the case. I think just because you do not bring your past person to the future with you, doesn’t mean you can’t bring the excitement of knowing you can love someone so greatly and bring the lessons and experiences you had within your previous relationship. So maybe the person was your first love, maybe it was  a romantic roller coaster that you never wanted to end or maybe they were there for you during a significant time in your life. The thing is moving forward doesn’t change anything that happened in the past. Nobody said you can only have one great love. Each love will have something different to bring to your life and that is the most exciting part of starting a new journey. Holding on in a situation that is blatantly status quo will keep you from being truly happy.

In my mind.. if he’s dumb enough to walk away from you then honey be smart enough to let him go and know there is plenty of love out there, just waiting to be grabbed up by you!

Closure, is a noun that can be defined in the dictionary as: [ an often comforting or satisfying sense of finality.] The issue I have with this definition is the word satisfying. Can you be fully satisfied by closure or will you keep wanting more? Is complete closure even possible? 

Everyone’s relationships span over various lengths of time and end for different reasons. Normally people would say “closure takes time” if so, is it fair to assume that a person in a 2 month relationship should receive closure faster than a person in a 4 year relationship? I tend to disagree. In dealing with matters of the heart, time is not of the essence. There is no time limit when it comes to love.

Closure is probably the hardest concept in life to grasp, you can’t see or touch it, and the only way to feel it is by recognizing your own emotions. You cannot depend on your previous significant other to give you the answers. Because in all honesty, you may never hear what you really want or need to hear from that person to feel better. However, in this situation you can’t just put a band aid on a broken heart and call it a day.  Ignorance is not bliss. Only you can control your own closure.

If I were to define closure it would be a slow work in progress and in its final chapter would read: [the feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and you smile, because you realize and appreciate all you do have, instead of the one thing you don’t have; it’s looking in the mirror and knowing there is someone out there for you, someone that deserves to be loved by you] but most importantly, [it’s knowing that no matter how horrible, betrayed or broken hearted you may have felt at one point, your heart is meant to be broken, but more importantly it is meant to be fixed and will eventually be loved unconditionally.]

By giving life and your own meaning to the word closure you can breathe life back into yourself. Closure is more than just a word, it’s how you get up and get out of bed every morning, knowing that your fairytale ending is out there and is waiting to be told, and trust me it will be as glamorous as you have always dreamed it would be.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but there are certain times when it is simply frustrating to hear. I know you can all relate to the following situation. Right after you break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and everyone you know turns around thinking they are being the super supportive friend by saying, “don’t worry you could do better, you wasted too much time on them, we didn’t see you with them anyway.” Excuse me for the overly enthusiastic bedside manner friends…NOT…but your interpretation of “wasting time” was my opportunity for a learning experience. People are put in your life for a reason, whether your relationship was ultra fabulous, mediocre, or gosh darn ugly at times. You go through experiences to learn and grow from them. So maybe the guy or girl did mess up, maybe they were too old or too young for you, maybe they were absolutely wonderful and it just wasn’t the right time. All this happened the way it was supposed to. So take your love lessons and use them as a guide in the future. Sounds like common sense to me! Never think you are wasting your time because everything happens for a reason whether it’s good or bad…you love…you learn…and you will continue to live…glamorously ever after.

Haven’t you always been told you have to fight for what you believe in? But what if what you are fighting for seemed impossible? Do you walk away or do you keep trying? When it comes to relationships when do you know when to choose fight or flight?

Recently I was asked by a close friend my opinion on what I would do if I was her, concerning her current relationship. I surprised myself, as well as her by saying…“YOU FIGHT”. It seemed almost natural for me to say those words to her and at the same time, advice I never thought I would give. In the past, I would have said just leave it alone, flee, there’s more “fish in the sea” but now two or three years later “flight” just seems like the easy way out. When faced with a challenge in life do you deal with it head on or run from it? Relationships are no different than any other challenge life throws at you.

My opinion, fight. Fight for what you believe in, if you love someone, fight to keep them or get them back. You have to give it all you got, because in the end you may still be left with a situation you didn’t ask for but at least you will always know that you did all you could. There is a reason the prince always gets the princess back, it’s because he was willing to go into battle of some sort to save her or bring her back to his castle. Some may say that seems a little desperate, but in life we make our own fairy tales. So, whether you are the prince or the princess, when faced with the choice to fight for love or flee from it, I say fight. Like the saying goes, “you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.”

It is an admirable quality to fight for WHAT you believe in. However, I think it is even more commendable to fight for WHO you love, because at then end of the fight no matter what, win or lose… you will fall exactly where you are supposed to.

I had to post the minute I received an e-mail from Rent the Runway promoting their Limited Time Clearance Sale. These designer dream dresses are yours to buy, for up to 75% off the retail price! With dresses originally $500 or $600 marked down to under $200, some even under $100, this would be a sin to miss! I am a huge fan of this website. RTR has been my go to for New Years Eve ensembles as well as birthday fun! Think ahead to an upcoming special occasion or just a fun girl’s night out and snag your very own runway look ASAP!

The sale starts tomorrow and today is a special preview for existing members. So GET YOUR GLAM ON and sign up at www.renttherunway.com

How many times have you heard a guy attempt to win you or someone you know back, by saying…“But I’ve changed, I’m a better person now, I promise I grew up!” My optimistic attitude would like to believe there is a prince charming in every man. I don’t want to discredit those who woke up, realized they screwed up and won their princess back. However, I personally along with many others I know have had to deal with men in our lives that have promised “they changed” only to disappoint. So my question is, “how do you measure change and does saying “I grew up” mean you’ve changed?”

I often wonder if people actually change or if old habits die hard. You can look at this scenario as an investment deal for instance, (since I believe relationships are like a business, but that is for another post)a guy says he has, or is going to become a better person, so then I’ll invest my time into staying by his side…but for how long and is it worth my investment? In the business world that involves making a deal, signing a contract and success would then be measured on profit return, being, how much money is made off the investment.  How do you measure change in a relationship though? I can sit here and say “time will tell” but will it? And will I be happy in time? Or am I just wasting my time on someone saying one thing and possibly not holding up their end of the deal. In this case you have to base this deal solely off a person’s word, and then ask yourself “is the risk worth the potential reward?” I’ve seen many of such deals crash faster than the stock market and then I am witness to ones that are continuing with their promise.

I for one like to give people the benefit of the doubt. So come on men of the world, don’t keep us glamorous believers waiting to see if you truly are prince charming or just the frog. The thing is nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but you can start today and make a new ending…maybe even a glamorously ever after one :)

The perfect way to adjust from summer into fall is to take a neutral stance and embrace this natural change of season by incorporating neutrals into your night out! Of course every aspiring fashionista has a picture perfect ensemble they would just die to wear. Then there is the practical one they can actually afford to wear. I am completely guilty of wanting to look glam every night I step out, however, trust me you can look fabulous without frying your bank account. 

My dream ensemble for an amazing August night out in NYC would include this gorgeous Alice & Olivia sequin stripe tank dress paired with a sassy pair of peep toed color block platforms with snakeskin detail and of course every fashion maven must have a vintage quilted lambskin CHANEL shoulder bag (let’s just say, not entry level PR budget friendly) now glam those nails with CHANEL Inatendu spring 2010 polish and brush on this beautiful Christian Dior Blush and you are SIMPLY STUNNING and ready to take on NYC!

WAIT A MINUTE…..

time to come back down to Earth…being glam doesn’t mean you have to spend tons of green! You just have to be a little bit of a savvy shopper. I used my dream outfit as an inspiration for this fashion friendly fix. You can get your glam on in this elegant embellished Calvin Klein tank (now on sale for $54) and pair it with a sexy but sweet little leather mini, a hot summer trend and a cool way to step into fall, I found this one from FOREVER 21 ($23). Get ready to strut downtown in great peep toe pumps by Jessica Simpson (on sale for $68), not only are they super trendy but her shoes are also beyond comfy! You can still be chic with a Chanel Big Buddha cream Layla bag (on sale for $55) then lacquer up your lovely nails with OPI “cotton candy” ($8) and brush on some budget friendly blush by Maybelline in light pink ($6) and you are realistically ready to rock the streets of NYC. See, even budgets can be beautiful!

GET YOUR GLAM on ladies for however much you desire! But remember “the company you share is more important than the couture you wear!” xoxo.

Over the years I have watched careers take people thousands of miles away and then I’ve witnessed the power of love whisk them miles away from their careers. These observations lead me to my first question…have you ever been faced with the equation: “is love greater or less than a career?” Most of the time, this equation’s variables involve 2 people, dollar signs and a sticky decision.  And unless your significant other is passionately packing up and jet setting along with you, it leaves the complicated question, can this be a win-win scenario? Can you get the girl/guy and success? Unfortunately as optimistic as I am something needs to give at some point. The joy of having your cake and eating it too isn’t always for lack of a better term a “piece of cake.” When given the choice “for love or for money”, which do you choose? When is it smart to lead with your wallet or your heart? What will be there in the end and more importantly what do YOU WANT to be there in the end? I know this question on the surface is easy to answer and many would want to say love, but when faced with the challenge could you handle it? I admire those who have been dealt these cards in life and were true to themselves regardless of others opinions. Some may see love as their triumph story while others see career status as their happily ever after. In the end it is ultimately your choice and how you measure success. Just remember you can’t buy back a broken heart.

I admit, I am a nail polish PRINCESS. I change my nail color like I change my….well, you get it. There are weeks where my nails can be a different color every other day, I just can’t get enough! My choice of shade depends on my mood NOT just the season. I have been known to flaunt some ultra FAB bright hues during the gloomiest winter months. Maybe this is considered a fashion faux pas,  but honestly, I could careless! I have been extremely loyal to one nail polish brand for years (can you guess which one?)  However, it is quite possible I will have to raise the white flag and surrender this season, because I might be switching sides! Have you checked out the OPI Fall 2011 collection? I am on the verge of obsession! The “Touring America Collection” includes 12 shades inspired by some of the greatest cities across the United States, how cute is that! Unlike most fall collections which go straight to the dark side with the change of season and never look back, this collection has a fabulous blend of fall dark’s and bright’s.  These colors allow summer sun worshipers a chance to keep their nails glowing into the crisp November days, with choices like, “I Eat Mainely Lobster” “My Address Is “Hollywood” and “Are We There Yet?”  For those who have had enough “day glow” nails for one season, there are some unique dark shades that I will definitely be rocking this fall. My top two polish picks include “Honk if you love OPI” and “Road House Blues” 

Which colors will you FALL in love with? Buckle up ladies the OPI “Touring America Collection” goes on sale August 3^rd.

GET YOUR GLAM ON and check out this collection and many more marvelous shades at www.OPI.com

The one and only Miss Lady Gaga says it best, and I believe this quote personifies the world of blogging. As I begin my journey into the blogosphere, I think this will be a whole new fabulous endeavor. Glamorously Ever After will allow me to share my savvy ability to uncover amazing affordable fashion, as well as over indulge in the luxury of delectable designer dream worlds. Along with fashion my other passion of love, dating tales and advice will be uncovered. The world of dating and love, topics I am quite familiar with from my own experience and observations of others. My Aquarian mindset of eternal optimism always believes in an ever after.

So fabulous fashionistatas, rational recessionistas and hopeful romantics I hope you continue to read and live… “glamorously ever after.”